7 Romantic ideas for date night at home

We all know that when you have kids it’s a little bit more difficult to go out on romantic date nights. But having kids doesn’t mean that you can’t have a romantic night. Instead of going out of the house I bring you some ideas you can do in the comfort of your home while the kids are sleeping.

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  1. Movie night:
    The most obvious one is movie night.Dim the lights put on a romantic movie.
    Pop corns snacks and drinks and you two can enjoy a movie night at home.
  2. Star Gazing:
    What you need: Blanket
    Just setup a blanket on the floor lay down in your partners arms and watch the stars.If you want to go deeper into star gazing than you can invest in a telescope and star gazing books.
  3. Backyard Camping:
    Setup a tent and a bonfire in te backyard.
    Prepare some s’mores and other type of snacks
  4. Candle light Dinner:
    This one is a classic. Prepare for dinner together or if you already had dinner make it a dessert night. Buy or make your own desserts. have some champagne  romantic music and enjoy the night. Don’t forget to dress up that will make it all complete.
  5. Body Painting:
    Whats not to like about being naked with your partner? For this one it would be better to do it in a room just in case the little kiddos decide to wake up to go to the restroom or something like that.
  6. Strip game:
    This should also be behind close doors.
    Play any game the easier the better.So you can get to do the other kind of games.
  7. Discover each other:
    Blind fold your self and start exploring the sense of touch and smell.
    Start with the face arms try to guess the perfume he has on. Get to know your partner. Get to know his scent.Because you are vulnerable and can’t see it will be more exciting for both of you.

Personally we do movie night and candle light dinner almost every week.

Leave your comment let us know some date night activities you enjoy doing at home.

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How to manage screen time addiction for kids

In this time we are living in everything revolves around some kind of screen.
There are screens everywhere.My household is no exception.We own a tv,laptop,phones and video games.Just like almost everyone.

We spend the majority of our time glued to a screen including my 1-year-old. Yess I know shame on me.Honestly i didn’t realize my child was getting addicted to her phone. Yes I said her phone.
My child is so smart that she even know my code pattern. She unlocked my phone got on YouTube to watch her favorite cartoon. Since that day I gave her an old phone we don’t use anymore.

I got my child addicted to technology and I blame myself for that.
Every time I needed some time for myself I turned the tv on. every time I needed time to clean the house or finish cooking etc I would shove her with the phone .Just so I could get my things done. But most of the time she is watching educational videos or children’s songs.

One morning when I finished breakfast I told her that it’s time to eat. I called her a few times and she just ignored me. I took the phone away and she had the biggest tantrum ever. Crying,screaming kicking all that because I took the phone away. I tought that it was just a one time thing. But after that day she did it every time I wanted to take he phone away. That’s when I realized that she was addicted to her phone. It was time to manage her screen addiction.

For the people that don’t know Screen Time is basically every single time you spend watching a technology based screen. For example tv,phone,tablet,computer and video games.

Dangers of screen time:
To much screen time has a negative effect on the brain and it affects your child’s development.

  • Poor concentration
  • Obesity
  • Poor social skills
  • Lack of sleep
  • aggression
  • Vision problems

The above has been linked with too much screen time. But those are not the only dangers the internet has to offer.
If you are a parent I assume you are familiar with pepa pig, ana and elsa.Sadly the are some sick people in this world who tought of the idea to turn this children’s cartoons into some kind of porn and other violent crimes. If you google  something like disturbing youtube videos tricking children’s you will find more information about those videos.
When using youtube your child can just stumble on one of this sick videos on youtube and that will traumatized your child for sure.

For older children’s there is always the dangers of sharing too much information with strangers.
Social media has a big influence in your children’s life.Always have parental control on those devices. You must be accessible anytime to their phone you must know the password. Keep an eye on what your children’s are doing online.

How to manage screen time:

  • As a parent with young children I advise you to put parental control on your devices.
  • Block and filter certain sites and content.
  • Instead of downloading games I recommend you to download educational apps.
  • I know you can’t be all the time near your child but try to monitor what they are watching.
  • Limit access to the internet
  • Change your wi-fi code often.
  • Set some rules

Screen time rules:
Screen time rules will help you battle against screen time addiction.
You can set as many rules as you find fitting for your family.
The rules I have till now for my own daughter ( almost 2 years old) are:

  1. No screen time right before bed
  2. No screen time at meal time
  3. She is only allowed 1 hour screen time during the day. Which I stretch out during the whole day. Example: Every few hours 10 min of screen time.(mostly when I need to get things done)
  4. Unless it is really necessary she is allowed to have more screen time. Example doctors office or if we are watching a movie as a family.

Some rules for older children’s are:

  1. Screen time only after home work
  2. Make them earn their screen time.
    Example making your bed allows you to 10 minutes of screen time.
  3. No screen time right before bed
  4. Don’t download ebooks. Go to a bookstore or library.
  5. Only weekends: If your Child gets lots of screen time at school. You can ban screen time during the week.

If your child is used to screen time eliminating it completely  with no replacement  will be a total fail. Because you will most probably have a grumpy child.
Replace screen time with something productive.Let them choose their own activities.

Creative and educational non screen time ideas:

  • Play time
  • Reading
  • Music
  • Art & craft
  • Sports

Let your child choose what activities they want to do. It must be somethings they love so that they won’t miss those devices.

Lead by example Invest time in your child.
Children’s mimic everything you do. So you too need to reduce your screen time too.
If you are 24/7 glued to your phone or your partner is glued to the tv. How can you expect your child not to get addicted to those devices.


 Let us know in the comment section what you do to

prevent screen time addiction?


 

 

5 steps to let go of past hurts

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The one thing that keeps us from happiness is when we can’t let go.
Usually when someone hurts us we tend to hold a grudge for a long long time.
Holding grudges keeps us from forgiving.The side effect is that we become bitter on the inside.

I must admit that I used to be this way. I used to keep worrying and getting angry about things that happened years ago.The struggle is real. I always want to forgive and forget.
But it’s really hard to let go. I always remember all the suffering and things they did to me.
I couldn’t let go. I couldn’t ignore the fact that my heart still hurts.

The reason it was hard for me to let go is because the people who hurts me the most are the ones I care about,the ones I least expected to. The ones that I love the most. They are the ones that hurts us more. Because we care.If someone I didn’t care about did something to hurt me. I would get over it more easily than if my friend betray me or something like that.

Trough the course of years I realized that I was the one hurting myself more. Because I kept getting angry whenever I remember about the incident. I’m the one crying in disbelief about the things she said to me. Till one day I decided that enough was enough. I deserve to be happy. Now I will show you 5 steps I took to let go of past hurts and become a happier person.

  1. Express your self
    Talk it out. Express your feelings to someone you can trust.If you are in contact with the one who hurts you. Talk to him,get everything out of your chest.Say all that needs to be said.
  2. Forgive and forget.
    Let’s keep it real. Forgiving is hard. It takes time. Try your best to forgive from the heart and not just with words.Try to not think about the past. Let it go.
  3. Cut them off
    Depending on the person and the situation it’s really hard for me to forget about things like that.It’s really easy for me to just cut people from my life.
    I don’t need those kind of people in my life.Toxic people need to go.
  4. Improve
    Leave it all behind. Start a new.Take time for yourself and focus on yourself.
    Improve what needs to be improved to prevent people from hurting you.
    Try to figure out what was the thing that lead them to hurt you.
    Maybe you are to open with people. Or is it that you trust people to easily?
    Fix wat needs to be fixed to protect your self.
  5. Move on
    There is no other way to say this than just move on.Focus your energy on things that will benefit you.Go out meet new people and be happy.

 

Let us know in the comments what you do to let go of past hurts.

 

15 Things Happy People Do



Get enough sleep

Do you usually feel tired in the morning? Getting enough sleep will not only let you wake up full of energie.but it will also boost your mood. So no more grumpy face when the alarm clock goes off

Wake up early
Waking up early will give you more time to do things.
You don’t need to rush to be on time.You may even get time to do something for yourself that you didn’t have time to do when you usually wake up late or right on time. Starting today put your alarm clock at least 30 minutes earlier.Give it a week to notice the difference.

Words of affirmation
Before you start your day take some time to remind yourself of who you are and what you will become.Words of affirmation will boost your confidence.
Here are some examples.

I am beautiful
I am amazing
I am fabulous
I know that i can and i will
I choose happiness and success
Today i will let go of the past
I am perfectly imperfect
I am ME

Happiness

Exercise
Exercise will make you feel good about yourself.It is a natural anti stress and antidepressant.
Go for a walk and enjoy your surroundings.

Eat healthy
You are what you eat.We all know the difference between healthy food and junk food.Remember you are what you eat. Choose wisely.

Don’t stress over things that are out of your control
Stressing on things that you can’t control or change will only make you angry.Instead of stressing on those things you need to focus on the things within your control.

Happiness

Don’t worry over little things
Don’t worry be happy.
Don’t cause mental distress on insignificant things.
Free your mind from worries

Be kind to people
When you are kind to someone they will be kind to you.
If you treat someone nice they will be nice to you.
If you treat someone like crap you can expect the same from them.What you give is what you get.

Positive thinking
Your mind is a powerful manifesting machine.
You can manifest your thoughts into reality.
Remove every negative thoughts from your mind and replace them with positive thoughts.

Don’t compare yourself with others
Every person is unique in their own way.Stop comparing yourself to others that seem to have it all.Because behind close doors you never know what’s really going on in their life.

socialize
Meet with a friend.if they are unavailable just go out on your own.Meet new people.join a club or sign up for salsa lessons.do whatever you want to do just make sure you are socializing and having fun.

Count their blessings
You are more blessed than you think.I mean you are blessed enough to have good sight to read this post. People take little things for granted.imagine a life without the ability to read or see.That’s why we need to count our blessings and appreciate everything we have.

Self love
Happy people love themself.Take care of your body and mind.Practise self care.

Forgive
Try  your best to truly forgive someone who has hurt you.But its more important to forgive yourself from past mistakes.Forgive and forget easier said then done.If you need to cut someone out of your life so you can forgive and forget just do it.(i did it) your happiness is what counts.the sooner you forgive the happier you will be.

Do what makes you happy
Find your passion find that something you wanted to do for a long time but didn’t do. Do you have a bucket list but you didn’t do anything on the list.What are you waiting for DO it now.

Leave a comment and let us know What you do to make your self happy?