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In this time we are living in everything revolves around some kind of screen.
There are screens everywhere.My household is no exception.We own a tv,laptop,phones and video games.Just like almost everyone.
We spend the majority of our time glued to a screen including my 1-year-old. Yess I know shame on me.Honestly i didn’t realize my child was getting addicted to her phone. Yes I said her phone.
My child is so smart that she even know my code pattern. She unlocked my phone got on YouTube to watch her favorite cartoon. Since that day I gave her an old phone we don’t use anymore.
I got my child addicted to technology and I blame myself for that.
Every time I needed some time for myself I turned the tv on. every time I needed time to clean the house or finish cooking etc I would shove her with the phone .Just so I could get my things done. But most of the time she is watching educational videos or children’s songs.
One morning when I finished breakfast I told her that it’s time to eat. I called her a few times and she just ignored me. I took the phone away and she had the biggest tantrum ever. Crying,screaming kicking all that because I took the phone away. I tought that it was just a one time thing. But after that day she did it every time I wanted to take he phone away. That’s when I realized that she was addicted to her phone. It was time to manage her screen addiction.
For the people that don’t know Screen Time is basically every single time you spend watching a technology based screen. For example tv,phone,tablet,computer and video games.
Dangers of screen time:
To much screen time has a negative effect on the brain and it affects your child’s development.
The above has been linked with too much screen time. But those are not the only dangers the internet has to offer.
If you are a parent I assume you are familiar with pepa pig, ana and elsa.Sadly the are some sick people in this world who tought of the idea to turn this children’s cartoons into some kind of porn and other violent crimes. If you google something like disturbing youtube videos tricking children’s you will find more information about those videos.
When using youtube your child can just stumble on one of this sick videos on youtube and that will traumatized your child for sure.
For older children’s there is always the dangers of sharing too much information with strangers.
Social media has a big influence in your children’s life.Always have parental control on those devices. You must be accessible anytime to their phone you must know the password. Keep an eye on what your children’s are doing online.
How to manage screen time:
Screen time rules:
Screen time rules will help you battle against screen time addiction.
You can set as many rules as you find fitting for your family.
The rules I have till now for my own daughter ( almost 2 years old) are:
Some rules for older children’s are:
If your child is used to screen time eliminating it completely with no replacement will be a total fail. Because you will most probably have a grumpy child.
Replace screen time with something productive.Let them choose their own activities.
Creative and educational non screen time ideas:
Let your child choose what activities they want to do. It must be somethings they love so that they won’t miss those devices.
Lead by example Invest time in your child.
Children’s mimic everything you do. So you too need to reduce your screen time too.
If you are 24/7 glued to your phone or your partner is glued to the tv. How can you expect your child not to get addicted to those devices.
The one thing that keeps us from happiness is when we can’t let go.
Usually when someone hurts us we tend to hold a grudge for a long long time.
Holding grudges keeps us from forgiving.The side effect is that we become bitter on the inside.
I must admit that I used to be this way. I used to keep worrying and getting angry about things that happened years ago.The struggle is real. I always want to forgive and forget.
But it’s really hard to let go. I always remember all the suffering and things they did to me.
I couldn’t let go. I couldn’t ignore the fact that my heart still hurts.
The reason it was hard for me to let go is because the people who hurts me the most are the ones I care about,the ones I least expected to. The ones that I love the most. They are the ones that hurts us more. Because we care.If someone I didn’t care about did something to hurt me. I would get over it more easily than if my friend betray me or something like that.
Trough the course of years I realized that I was the one hurting myself more. Because I kept getting angry whenever I remember about the incident. I’m the one crying in disbelief about the things she said to me. Till one day I decided that enough was enough. I deserve to be happy. Now I will show you 5 steps I took to let go of past hurts and become a happier person.
Get enough sleep
Do you usually feel tired in the morning? Getting enough sleep will not only let you wake up full of energie.but it will also boost your mood. So no more grumpy face when the alarm clock goes off
Wake up early
Waking up early will give you more time to do things.
You don’t need to rush to be on time.You may even get time to do something for yourself that you didn’t have time to do when you usually wake up late or right on time. Starting today put your alarm clock at least 30 minutes earlier.Give it a week to notice the difference.
Words of affirmation
Before you start your day take some time to remind yourself of who you are and what you will become.Words of affirmation will boost your confidence.
Here are some examples.
I am beautiful
I am amazing
I am fabulous
I know that i can and i will
I choose happiness and success
Today i will let go of the past
I am perfectly imperfect
I am ME
Exercise will make you feel good about yourself.It is a natural anti stress and antidepressant.
Go for a walk and enjoy your surroundings.
You are what you eat.We all know the difference between healthy food and junk food.Remember you are what you eat. Choose wisely.
Don’t stress over things that are out of your control
Stressing on things that you can’t control or change will only make you angry.Instead of stressing on those things you need to focus on the things within your control.
Don’t worry over little things
Don’t worry be happy.
Don’t cause mental distress on insignificant things.
Free your mind from worries
Be kind to people
When you are kind to someone they will be kind to you.
If you treat someone nice they will be nice to you.
If you treat someone like crap you can expect the same from them.What you give is what you get.
Your mind is a powerful manifesting machine.
You can manifest your thoughts into reality.
Remove every negative thoughts from your mind and replace them with positive thoughts.
Don’t compare yourself with others
Every person is unique in their own way.Stop comparing yourself to others that seem to have it all.Because behind close doors you never know what’s really going on in their life.
Meet with a friend.if they are unavailable just go out on your own.Meet new people.join a club or sign up for salsa lessons.do whatever you want to do just make sure you are socializing and having fun.
Count their blessings
You are more blessed than you think.I mean you are blessed enough to have good sight to read this post. People take little things for granted.imagine a life without the ability to read or see.That’s why we need to count our blessings and appreciate everything we have.
Happy people love themself.Take care of your body and mind.Practise self care.
Try your best to truly forgive someone who has hurt you.But its more important to forgive yourself from past mistakes.Forgive and forget easier said then done.If you need to cut someone out of your life so you can forgive and forget just do it.(i did it) your happiness is what counts.the sooner you forgive the happier you will be.
Do what makes you happy
Find your passion find that something you wanted to do for a long time but didn’t do. Do you have a bucket list but you didn’t do anything on the list.What are you waiting for DO it now.