5 steps to let go of past hurts

let go of past hurts

The one thing that keeps us from happiness is when we can’t let go.
Usually when someone hurts us we tend to hold a grudge for a long long time.
Holding grudges keeps us from forgiving.The side effect is that we become bitter on the inside.

I must admit that I used to be this way. I used to keep worrying and getting angry about things that happened years ago.The struggle is real. I always want to forgive and forget.
But it’s really hard to let go. I always remember all the suffering and things they did to me.
I couldn’t let go. I couldn’t ignore the fact that my heart still hurts.

The reason it was hard for me to let go is because the people who hurts me the most are the ones I care about,the ones I least expected to. The ones that I love the most. They are the ones that hurts us more. Because we care.If someone I didn’t care about did something to hurt me. I would get over it more easily than if my friend betray me or something like that.

Trough the course of years I realized that I was the one hurting myself more. Because I kept getting angry whenever I remember about the incident. I’m the one crying in disbelief about the things she said to me. Till one day I decided that enough was enough. I deserve to be happy. Now I will show you 5 steps I took to let go of past hurts and become a happier person.

  1. Express your self
    Talk it out. Express your feelings to someone you can trust.If you are in contact with the one who hurts you. Talk to him,get everything out of your chest.Say all that needs to be said.
  2. Forgive and forget.
    Let’s keep it real. Forgiving is hard. It takes time. Try your best to forgive from the heart and not just with words.Try to not think about the past. Let it go.
  3. Cut them off
    Depending on the person and the situation it’s really hard for me to forget about things like that.It’s really easy for me to just cut people from my life.
    I don’t need those kind of people in my life.Toxic people need to go.
  4. Improve
    Leave it all behind. Start a new.Take time for yourself and focus on yourself.
    Improve what needs to be improved to prevent people from hurting you.
    Try to figure out what was the thing that lead them to hurt you.
    Maybe you are to open with people. Or is it that you trust people to easily?
    Fix wat needs to be fixed to protect your self.
  5. Move on
    There is no other way to say this than just move on.Focus your energy on things that will benefit you.Go out meet new people and be happy.

 

Let us know in the comments what you do to let go of past hurts.

 

  • This is such a helpful post, and has some really great advice. I thinking moving on and learning from the experience is the best thing to do.
    Emily xx
    http://underthescottishrain.blogspot.co.uk

  • Fillia Barden (www.WomanOfCour

    I struggled to let someone go in the past. It was not easy at all, but once I did it, I could see the bright side of it.

  • These are really great tips. It’s never easy to move on from things… 🙂

  • This is such a fantastic idea for a post. Will hopefully help a lot of people 🙂

  • Hannah Chau

    I don’t think you can ever really forget past hurts. But I think making yourself accept and love the person that has hurt you is the most powerful thing you can ever do.

  • I love being kind to others. It’s such an easy, small thing to do and it can change someone’s day. I don’t understand people that are negative and unkind. There’s no reason to be that way

  • Jasmin N

    Great post! Moving on isn’t always the easiest thing to do, but it’s a necessity.

  • Really lovely post. It’s not easy to leave some things behind and move on..
    Best
    Michaela

  • Cassidy Slockett

    What a lovely read. It can be so hard to move on from someone or something that hurt you and seriously affected your life, but by not moving on, you will never learn and never grow. Great post!